Monday, 5 October 2009

Its all about listening not merely hearing

Being a mentor is not as easy as it may sound. People always make mistake by assuming thing without prior knowledge of that thing. Due to that, he or she can not perform his duty as a mentor effectively and efficiently.

One thing that I would like to share when we talk about being a mentor is that one has to take the liberty of listening to his or her mentee. Many of us are hearing but few of us are actually listening. What is the different between listening and hearing? The simple answer is that hearing is when you hear something merely for the sake of hearing just like when you are hearing music. But listening, is you hear something and give prior attention to it and respond to it.

Being a mentor, you have to listen to your mentee. How to do it? simple, you just ask them simple question, such as what do you eat for breakfast? who send you to the programme? and etc. What should I do next? Just listen. Listen to their voice. Listen to their feeling. Why this is very important? This is because, by listening to them, it actually shows that you appreciate them, your concern towards them. This will create strong bonding between you your self as a mentor and them as mentees.

Moreover, this will help to create trust between mentor and mentee. Trust is very important in order to ensure effective mentoring. Trust is something that you can find or ask for, rather it is something that your have to earn it. So one way of doing it is by listening to them. If you want others to listen to you, you first must listen to them. Only then they would show their trust and at most respect to you.

"You have to tune in before you are tune on"



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